I am 37. I am financially independent and what is generally considered attractive. I am a cis white male. I am depressed and have a stress syndrome but I am medicated. I rarely leave my house. I'm great with kids. My house has a lot of plants in it. I'm not currently speaking to anyone that I would consider dating. I'm on bumble and tinder actively. I live in eastern long island in New York. I don't have any STDs. I know how to clean up and look good without looking like I tried. I smoke too much weed. I am great at cooking (not dude cooking, I prepare meals). I don't have any pets. I own a day trading business. I play the violin among other instruments. I speak French well enough to get by.
My last relationship was for 2.5 years and ended uhh early last year.
(Added from comments, not in order):
I am 6', 6'1"
I weigh 185ish
I don't have any criminal record
Free time and hobbies- I love gardening and crafting. Like I build raised beds and make really good compost. I like yoga and do stretches every day. I game a lot, currently playing satisfactory and Diablo 4. I like being physically active- trails. I like actively watching movies and series.
In terms of politics- I try really hard not to get hyped up. I get my news from ground.news. I would say I am a moderate, with more of a focus on economics and stability as my concerns, with probably some left tendencies (like on abortion, probably healthcare).
I think the biggest thing holding me back is anxiety. I am either weird, or extremely charming and spot on. If I'm comfortable, I am a great conversationalist, I'm considerate...with the wrong types of people, I get weird and avoidant. If I'm comfortable, I have no problem being direct and confident. It's really fun actually.
Ask for more info.
I will not trade, to keep things unbiased.
How many people have you slept with, approximately? You don't have to answer, obviously...
@BusinessTrue I think 8. My biggest motivation is that I really want to start a family...I'm an only child and my mom had a stroke last year. So I have a fire under my butt to have kids (I want my children to know their grandmother), and I want to also. I'm very comfortable in my house now...I could grow old and never have to work and live hedonisticly. But it's time to have a family.
@CL473d I have thought of therapy- I should really. I'm open to it, and may.
I don't go to meetups...actually I rarely hang out with anyone (but I did go on a date like a month ago)
@MaxterData sounds pretty similar to me a few years ago (albeit a bit older)
Have you ever used psychedelics?
Are you changing your approach or something now vs say at 34 or 35?
Genuinely asking just so I can decide which way to bet
@CL473d I have done psychedelics, more than a dozen times. I'm definitely healthier and happier than I was a year ago- a lot changed...medication, financial strength, I have a house, medication, close to family and more involved with them. My approach is the same, pretty much dating apps, which I've definitely had success with...I've hooked up with people, gone on lots of dates, it's how I met my last gf.
@JacksonWraight As mentioned in the description, to avoid that exact scenario of bias, I am not trading.
@mongo hmmm. Let me think about the picture. I am 6'. I weigh 185ish now. The only concern about the picture is security but at this point...? I am def a handsome dude.
Some general questions:
What is the size, gender balance, and relationship success rate of your friendship group?
What are your political views e.g. in terms of economics, government, and progressivism (particularly gender equality)?
Besides violin, what are your free-time hobbies, and what topics do you enjoy chatting about, both for small talk and deep discussions?
Do you find it difficult to enjoy the company of, compassionately care about, and trust people you meet?
Do any you have a date-me-doc, so we can get further insights? e.g. https://dateme.directory/
How severe is the depression and stress syndrome affecting your life given the medication?
What do you feel is the main limiting factor in you getting a relationship?
Do you have a criminal record?
Good luck :)